Lesson Learned! — You’ve Got to Love Yourself!
One of the hardest, yet essential, to do is to love ourselves, but it shouldn’t be that hard, right? So here’s my story and the lesson I learn about loving myself.
Growing up with a bone disease and a zit-prone skin, I constantly received negative comments from a lot of people about my appearance.
“You don’t walk like normal people!”
“You have too many pimples!”
I used to get such comments when I was young. I also remember that they loved reminding me about the protruding teeth, “Your teeth are protruding too much! Don’t you want to get them fixed?”
Or when I was too skinny, “You look like a skeleton,”
too chubby, “You’re ugly when you’re this chubby.”
It never stopped.
Once I started working and earned my own cha-ching, I went to a dermatologist to fix my oily, zit-prone skin and also continued paying for the braces.
Unfortunately, the changes in my appearance didn’t stop these people. These days, they’re going after my life. I swear to God I’ll never forget when this one person said to me, “Grandpa has died and you haven’t given him a grandchild!”
In what universe do you think I have the power to cheat God’s plan??? — a question directed to ‘her’
What do I learn from all of this?
I learn that we can’t stop people from commenting on every single thing in our life — be it physical appearance or life in general. So, who has the power to filter the negativity and become a happier person? Well, I do! We do! All of us! Even when we’re by ourselves, we need to find a way to block out the unhappiness.
Of course, there are bad days when I forget about the whole practice-to-love-myself thing, but we’re all here trying our best to become a better version of ourselves!
These are the 6 things to do to love ourselves from SELF.com,
- Think of self-love as a practice, not a destination — and define it for yourself.
2. Know that you don’t have to love your reality in order to love (or accept, or forgive) yourself.
3. Challenge your negative mental narrative by sticking to the facts.
4. Acknowledge that oppression and trauma can make self-love even more challenging.
5. Practice setting boundaries — in real life and online — to build self-worth.
6. Remind yourself that loving — or at least accepting — yourself is a worthwhile pursuit.
Here’s a reminder to Love Yourself from BTS,
I love you so you should love yourself too!!!
